I wasn’t going to upload this last podcast. But Monk says I’m being silly. And lord knows, I need the blog-content, I've been way too busy to write much lately.

So, I am ignoring a voice in the back of my head that says it’s slightly undignified. Unladylike, in fact.

Yes, I know – I don’t feel the slightest qualm about posting photos of myself sticking needles in people. That's perfectly dignified. It's <span style="font-style: italic;">kinky,</span> but it's not undignified.

But I do feel that it is slightly undignified to post slightly-tipsy rants about one of my pet topics: Crazy People And Sex Work.

Just to be clear – thank you, President Obama – I am not disclaiming the basic opinions I express here. I just wish I had voiced them a trifle less profanely and a trifle less… stridently. Whoops.

There's also a whole side conversation about fisting, in which I make an ill-advised personal disclosure.

Thus, I bring to a close the era of cocktails while podcasting. Enjoy us in all our ranty glory, the next round will be far more calm, sober and public-radio-esque. (Well, I will be, at least. I cannot speak for Monk.)

Wed, 14 October 2009 Sex Negative Sex Workers, and Fisting I wasn’t going to upload this last podcast. But Monk says I’m being silly. And lord knows, I need the blog-content, I've been way too busy to write much lately. So, I am ignoring a voice in the back of my head that says it’s slightly undignified. Unladylike, in fact. Yes, I know – I don’t feel the slightest qualm about posting photos of myself sticking needles in people. That's perfectly dignified. It's <span style="font-style: italic;">kinky,</span> but it's not undignified. But I do feel that it is slightly undignified to post slightly-tipsy rants about one of my pet topics: Crazy People And Sex Work. Just to be clear – thank you, President Obama – I am not disclaiming the basic opinions I express here. I just wish I had voiced them a trifle less profanely and a trifle less… stridently. Whoops. There's also a whole side conversation about fisting, in which I make an ill-advised personal disclosure. Thus, I bring to a close the era of cocktails while podcasting. Enjoy us in all our ranty glory, the next round will be far more calm, sober and public-radio-esque. (Well, I will be, at least. I cannot speak for Monk.) Direct download: MM_podcast_episode_35.mp3 Category: podcasts -- posted at: 5:13 AM Comments[0]

Tue, 6 October 2009 Polyamory Letters and Questions First letter: when to disclose to a potential new partner that you are poly, if they don’t know already. And then: dealing with weirdness from your partner’s other partners. (AKA “metamours”.) Direct download: MM_podcast_episode_34.mp3 Category: podcasts -- posted at: 5:03 AM Comments[0]

Thu, 1 October 2009 Fast and Dirty Bondage In this podcast, we do a lot of silly banter about needles and being naked in bed, and then Monk reads a letter about how to do fast, easy rope bondage during a resistance play scene, and I make some comments about securing someone who is larger than you. After that, I verbally slap around someone who wants me to do their kinky thinking for them. About 16 minutes. Direct download: MM_podcast_episode_37.mp3 Category: podcasts -- posted at: 2:22 AM Comments[0]

Wed, 23 September 2009 Poly Time Management and Young Poly Questions about Polyamory: Time-management for poly people: how many partners is too many? And the difficulty of finding polyamorous partners when you're young. (Meaning: in your twenties.) Direct download: MM_podcast_episode_33.mp3 Category: podcasts -- posted at: 5:31 AM Comments[0]

Fri, 18 September 2009 Bondage and Kink In Long Term Relationships After way too long of an interval - blame it on our busy schedules - Monk and I got together in the zombie-proof sound studio and recorded some silly rants. This one is a little short, only about seven minutes. It's a letter from a reader who asks about sustaining BDSM energy in a long-term relationship. Enjoy! Direct download: MM_podcast_episode_36.mp3 Category: podcasts -- posted at: 3:07 AM Comments[0]

Wed, 8 July 2009 Apples and Oranges: Comparing Your Partners In Polyamory In this one, Monk and I read letters about polyamory. First we talk about the not-so-good idea of comparing your partners. "Why can't Partner B be more like Partner A." Then Monk talks a little about his wife Tambo - and explains why he hardly ever talks about her. (Hint: She is Keyser Soze.) Direct download: MM_Podcast_031.mp3 Category: podcasts -- posted at: 4:52 AM Comments[0]

Fri, 3 July 2009 Safewords, and BDSM With Hearing-Impaired Partners In this podcast, first we read a letter about safewords, and make mention of my two favorite safewords: vomit and lawsuit. I promise, those two words will capture any top's attention, anytime. We also talk about the challenges of doing BDSM with a partner who is hearing-impaired. I make a verbal slip at one point that I must correct: I mistakenly say, "They can hear ME," which is not what I meant. I meant: a hearing-impaired person can talk, and I can hear THEM. Whoops. Direct download: MM_Podcast_030.mp3 Category: podcasts -- posted at: 5:22 AM Comments[0]

Sun, 21 June 2009 Staplers and Canes and Dildos, Oh My! Monk and I talk about bdsm toys we love. Direct download: MM_Podcast_028.mp3 Category: podcasts -- posted at: 7:17 PM Comments[1]

Fri, 12 June 2009 How To Start A Kink Business In this podcast, we read some follow-up letters about kinky relationships, and then Monk rants about the joys of creating a business selling kinky products. Direct download: MM_Podcast_032.mp3 Category: podcasts -- posted at: 5:52 AM Comments[0]

Mon, 1 June 2009 BDSM: Dealing With Family When You're Kinky In this podcast, Monk and I talk about the very sticky issue of dealing with parents who get nosy about their adult-children's sex life. Or: What To Do When Your Parents Find Out You're Kinky - And They Aren't Happy. Direct download: 01_matissepodcastjune12006.mp3 Category: podcasts -- posted at: 5:31 AM Comments[0]

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First letter: when to disclose to a potential new partner that you are poly, if they don’t know already.
And then: dealing with weirdness from your partner’s other partners. (AKA “metamours”.)

In this podcast, we do a lot of silly banter about needles and being naked in bed, and then Monk reads a letter about how to do fast, easy rope bondage during a resistance play scene, and I make some comments about securing someone who is larger than you. After that, I verbally slap around someone who wants me to do their kinky thinking for them. About 16 minutes.

After way too long of an interval - blame it on our busy schedules - Monk and I got together in the zombie-proof sound studio and recorded some silly rants.
This one is a little short, only about seven minutes. It's a letter from a reader who asks about sustaining BDSM energy in a long-term relationship. Enjoy!

In this one, Monk and I read letters about polyamory. First we talk about the not-so-good idea of comparing your partners. "Why can't Partner B be more like Partner A." Then Monk talks a little about his wife Tambo - and explains why he hardly ever talks about her. (Hint: She is Keyser Soze.)

In this podcast, first we read a letter about safewords, and make mention of my two favorite safewords: vomit and lawsuit. I promise, those two words will capture any top's attention, anytime.

We also talk about the challenges of doing BDSM with a partner who is hearing-impaired. I make a verbal slip at one point that I must correct: I mistakenly say, "They can hear ME," which is not what I meant. I meant: a hearing-impaired person can talk, and I can hear THEM. Whoops.

Monk and I talk about bdsm toys we love.

In this podcast, we read some follow-up letters about kinky relationships, and then Monk rants about the joys of creating a business selling kinky products.